This week’s mitzvah Monday is about adding meaningful customs or traditions to our lives. The night before Passover (sounds like the lead in to a Christmas song) when I have been working to thoroughly cleanse my house for several weeks and tried to remove every piece of bread and leavening we possess (well hopefully) we observe a family tradition that while customary is also quite fun. We started observing this custom many years ago when my daughter was a toddler. We gather in the dining room and make a short blessing thanking God for his commandments and commanding us to remove the chametz from our house.
I think of this custom as a family version of hide and seek. Before we say the blessing, I have hidden pieces of bread wrapped in paper bag material throughout our living room and dining room. Then my kids and I walk through the house with a candle for light and a feather to pick up the last remaining pieces of bread and officially declare any other bread left in our house that we haven’t found yet null and void - whew that takes care of anything later found in jacket pockets or somewhere else I might have overlooked. I love the symbolism of this last preparation for Passover as well as the fun it provides our family while we “search” by candlelight for the bread.
I often compare preparing for the Passover holiday to my gentile friends preparing for Christmas because there is so much expected as we approach this spring holiday, including cleaning, switching regular dishes for Passover dishes, shopping and cooking. But by the time we reach the search for the chametz I am ready. Both spiritually and mentally, ready to tell the story of the Exodus of the Jews from the land of Egypt, ready to eat some matzah and experience another year of Passover with my family and friends. Creating new traditions with our families can be as easy as learning about something we didn’t know existed and adding it to our routine.
Choosing to start a new custom in our lives, shouldn’t be overwhelming. Growing up, my family didn’t observe this search for the chametz, but as a young mother somehow I added this custom to our family and have always thought it was fun for the kids. This is the perfect season to start a new holiday tradition since Passover and Easter are both this week. A couple of great suggestions are collecting tzedakah (charity) right before your holiday meal to donate to your families favorite non-profit, or making a blessing before or after a meal, additionally you could make a blessing over your children and let them know something you are proud of that they have done that week. We typically do this on Friday night but any night of the week could work. Whatever custom you decide to add to your life, find one that is meaningful and adds joy when you do it. For me, the yearly custom of Bidikat Chametz makes me smile each and every year and why shouldn’t it, who doesn’t love any version of hide and seek?
Wishing everyone a wonderful spring holiday season.
Our Family 2009
Our Passover Table
It’s been more than week since I have posted any mitzvahs. I have been entrenched in Passover preparation which culminated in a wonderful Seder held on Wednesday night at our home with 15 people at our outstretched table. For days prior to the Seder, I was cleaning and preparing my home as well as cooking and deciding which Haggadah we would use.
Passover is the celebration of the Jewish exodus from slavery to freedom in Egypt. We gather every year for a celebratory meal and retell the story. My goal this year was to host our first “large” Seder and to make it fun and engaging for the kids. I believe it was a success. I wanted to include some of the wonderful experiences we have had over the years at others Seders. For example, using green onions to pretend we are “whipping” the slaves, lots of fun additional English Passover songs sung to any number of well known tunes. Think Take Us Out of Egypt, sung to the tune of Take Me Out to the Ball Game and Moses sung to the tune of the Flintstones. One of my favorite parts was the story of the exodus narrated by my 11 year old daughter and acted out by our friend’s daughter also age 11 and my son age 8. While it might have been a briefer rendition of the story it certainly engaged the children as I had hoped. Finally, our favorite part, the 10 plagues with real “props” like plastic frogs, locusts and cattle and marsh mellows for the hail. Everyone seemed to enjoy this crazy part of the retelling. I jokingly tell my non-Jewish friends that April and preparing for Passover seems comparable to what I think non Jews must go through preparing their homes and tables for Christmas.
971-976) Included in the Seder are actually 5 mitzvahs. Here are 5 mitzvahs we all did on Wednesday night. Two mitzvahs from the Torah: 1) to eat matzah on the night of Passover 2) to tell the story of being freed from Egypt. Three mitzvahs instituted later by the sages – 1) to drink four cups of wine or grape juice 2) to eat maror (bitter herbs) 3) to recite the hallel prayers (praises).
A mitzvah received too. Finally, one of our guests wanted to bring her Chicken Soup to our Seder. Since I keep kosher and that wouldn’t be possible, I invited her over to cook with me. On Monday, we cooked Chicken Soup, Stuffed Cabbage and she taught me how to make a Persian version of Haroset (a traditional Passover food). It had dates and oranges and was delicious. Her help was a mitzvah and we had a ton of fun cooking together.
Today I reached my first 100 mitzvahs. I am very happy that this coincided with the date of my dad’s birthday. I felt that he would be thrilled to know that my project is in full swing at this time. Also, I know he would be happy to see how many things I have already learned through the project.
I have had more than one person tell me that I am probably not counting as many things as I really should. At the current rate I am going, it might take me 2 years to complete this project, so I may begin to count additional things that in the past I had not included. For example, whenever I attend synagogue I usually put money in the tzedakah box. I will now start recording that.
I also thought it would be fun to review the first 100 mitzvahs. How many of them took less than 5 minutes? How many of them cost money? How many were just my time? I will need sometime to review the list, but I will be sure to record the results as soon as I can.
Now onto mitzvahs….
98) Attended morning services and left money in the tzedakah box.
99) Donated money in memory of a congregant who died at our synagogue yesterday.
100&101) Picked up an item for auction number 2 that I am now procuring items for. In addition, made several phone calls to follow up with donors.
102) A local hair salon that I had gotten the item from asked to have our school advertise an event for Locks of Love that she is offering for our community. I brought the information to our school for approval. I would love to be part of helping children and adults give to this neat charity.
103) Volunteered at the school for a before spring break event.
104) The final mitzvah for today was really one someone did for me before I could do one for him.
I recieved a gift certificate from a local Jewish store in thanks for my help with the school auction. I had wanted to use the certificate to get a present for our hosts for Passover next week. I had tried to stop by the store the last few days but had missed the open hours. I actually saw the owner walking home today after I picked up the kids. I pulled over and explained the situation. He told me he would be happy to reopen the store if I could drive him home afterwards. So his mitzvah was the prelude to my mitzvah.